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Why am I only reading this now?? I laughed so hard at 4 in the morning the dogs started barking, thinking that a maniacal joker was breaking into the house. Absolutely loved it. Now i know where Ms-PandaLee gets her tried and tested ideas from.
Oh my … i just laughed so much while reading this … i love the service that you are performing and cannot wait to read and learn more … Yes, learn! You, lovely lady, are teaching me so much … More importantly, you are teaching me (and hopefully, all who read your amazing writings) how to have fun … And i do believe that Masters/Doms can learn from this as well … Whilst this lifestyle can be very serious and intense, there is a flipside, which you so eloquently and humorously share with U/us unselfishly in your writings … i thank you and look forward to much, much more …
XD you are a good labrat (that’s “la brat”); you didn’t fail 4 times, you’ve eliminated 4 alternatives from a mountain of possible solutions to your (ongoing) predicament.
Thnx for sharing this Wonder-woman. Inspires me to write a semi-bio-piece about my journey that brought me into the world of kink…Thank You for the Motivanion this piece gave me.
A really inspiring article. Gave me goosebumps and I had to compose myself as I read thru it. Thank You for posting this.
As always, well written. As for experience; (the following I still have to get right)
“Practice does not make perfect. Only perfect practice makes perfect.” – Vince Lombardi
Gorgeously written piece! I aways love seeing you play (twice now i think), your laughter and giggles are infectious and your marks looked fabulous! 😉😊
You are very kind. Thank you so much for taking the time to read (and watch!)
A very well written and informative piece, thank you. I gained more and deeper insight into the mechanics of masochism. I’m usually in the front, and even with all the activities and noises, W/we can hear your giggles – which brings a smile to O/our faces. Boowitch is playing and she is enjoying it…
Thank you very much for the comment. I’m not sure if I am a classic masochist. But the pain gets me to the most beautiful subspace.
Glad you enjoyed the giggles 🙂
I’m not sure there is such a thing as a classic masochist. 😉
Runs away as I see the typo’s… Should really wait till I am properly awake… There is no edit button!
I will comment here rather than on the original post since I am a little in trouble for alate rsvp to the party.
Great reading your perspective. You have a way of putting so much emotion into words. It felt like I was actually at a party reading throigh it. Is it strange that after all my years I still get that nervous anticipation as I walk up the stairs every time?
It’s fascinating to me how I have never experienced the exact same vibe at any two SB parties. It’s home, but there is something new, exciting and unexpected happening every time we get to go visit.
P.S. Your bum is now oficially part of my fondle group. Noooo way RopeWrangler gets to keep that to himself ALL the time. After all your butt is one of the views that makes our home prime real estate – insert my famous innocent grin here-.
Awww thank you for the wonderful compliment. *blushes furiously*
You will have to ask RopeWrangler if he doesn’t mind sharing my bum from time to time. *insert giggle here*
Dear lady… As explained in person, this is extremely hot and erotic and allowed me to enjoy the sybian in ways that I am physically not really able to.
Thank you so very much for sharing, and for sharing so, so well!
I think last night was the first time we really met, great putting a smile and giggle to the profile. Your spanking was awesome!
So glad you went there!!! The Sybian is both evil and soooo delicious. I’m glad you experienced it!
And thank you for the complint on the play. MissLynn Rocked!
Oh dear lady, it takes two to tango…. The stunning MissLynn could not have had that lovely play on her own… She needed your awesome responses! Hope you have a stunning week!
My question…. why always the need to place ourselves in a box?
Only you can put yourself in a box 😉
THAT SOUNDS FUCKING INCREDIBLE!
I think I need to organize me a date with the sybian to find my g-spot XD
Wow. You should post this on the erotic writing group as well. The way you experienced the sybian and writing about it is truly amazing and so in-depth. Readers on the erotic writing group who were unable to attend last Saturday would feel like they were there with you.
Thank you very much for your kind comments and the time you took to read it. It’s much appreciated.
Lol, as for erotic writing, does it qualify if it’s not fiction?
P.S. I hope you go on the Sybian!
Best article EVER!!!!!!
Thank you for sharing yourself, your thoughts, yourself.
I have watched a few plays between you and 3F, and this weekend watched you in the Sybian room for a short while. I admire how liberated you are.
You are a beautiful and inspiring lady.
Thank you so much for your kind words.
I’m glad you enjoyed the writing. It was even more fun experiencing 😛 every other should have a go on that evil remote controlled contraption
As for being liberated… BDSM have given me a freedom I have never expected. Both in mind and in body. Sound Barrier has created a space to let go in safety and without judgement, and I’m thankful for that.
Thank you for taking the time the watch and read 🙂
This is certainly a thought provoking piece and i love the analogy used … Thank You for sharing and giving such wise insight into the inner workings of a successful dynamic …
No truer words have been spoken. I like the analogy very much, the framework (or in O/our case, by law, the house plans) is the intent of the relationship. Only through cooperation does the shell, house, become a home.
And just like a real home, it gets cobwebs in the corners. (Unlike a real home, most would not have a domestic worker “taking care” of the cobwebs). The house needs to be cleaned regularly. In a traditional, old fashioned relationship the submissive would take care of the day-to-day cleaning and up keep. The Dominant’s day-to-day responsibility is to protect the submissive and the house, the up keep of the garden etc.
But like a real house, the most damage comes from the outside weather, real life, stress and other factors. It is the Dominant’s responsibility to make sure that the velocity and magnitude of the structural up keep of the house is faster and more than what the environment is doing to the house. And like a real house, it is a frequent and never ending exercise – that is, if you want to live in a cosy and happy home. Most of the up keep only needs the Dominants attention early on – or the submissive highlighting the small crack in the wall. And like most up keeping; ignoring the problem will result in a more expensive, labour intensive effort, that may involve a contractor.
The submissive is also not spared from this up keep. The Dominant might be occupied with protecting the home (e.g. financially), or admiring His submissive shuffling along, bound and in a French maid outfit… It is the submissive responsibility to guide the Dominant’s attention to the problem areas. (Strip tease in front of the crack is not going to help)
I purposefully didn’t use gender here because weather Y/you are a Dom or Domme, slave boy or girl – these roles, most of the time, fits your personality.
Wow, thank you Tallship, I usually don’t write much but this just inspired Me!
Giggles… Oh I love the mean spot!
I need to remember this and not beat myself because I haven’t done all the things I want to do as of yet. But being interested in BDSM from a young age and not having a way to express definitely contributes to moving too fast.
Thanks for sharing 🙂
That is all.
I’ve noticed that the rate of others’ journey seems accelerated when compared with my own, and I imagine that my own journey may seem fast in comparison to some. Without a doubt the internet, and associated connectivity devices, have created a rapid rate of inception and ingestion for almost any activity; and we all suffer from what is know as hyperconnectivity. I think that slowing down is something that hardly happens these days.
Having said that, life sometimes forces you to slow down, to even stop if you refuse to listen. When that happens, it shatters your world and frankly, I don’t wish it on anyone.
I think this is sage advice, Kattman; slow down and take the journey with care. Relish the evolution, because if life forces you to slow down, it’s going to be a little on the unpleasant side.
Thank you for the interesting and informative read.
W/we are not all blessed with fat-pipe, erm, broadband o.O
It loaded immediately for me!
Good reading for all newbies
Oh my … Thank You Sir for sharing Your thought provoking wisdom with U/us all … Some of U/us are like kid’s in a candy store, rushing from one delicious tidbit to another and in the process, W/we are missing out on so much more …
I can completely identify with this. I think it helps that as kinksters we are generally a creative lot and can often wiggle our way out of the obstacles that life throws at us.
Lifes been fucking with my kink the whole year, haven’t been at a party since Dec
😀 Apologies, don’t mean to laugh, but this is funny. Would love to hear more F/folks stories of how “life” gets in the way of T/their kink!
Very interesting. Thank you for posting.
Wow … an amazing read indeed … not only essential info for newbies, but recommended reading for all U/us ‘oldies’ as well …
My recommendation is at least read up on some basics then, attend a party, meet people and do a tie with a experienced bunny or a rigger nearby.
Most importantly make sure the model will safe word when needed.
Get over the “fear of the safe word”.
Have fun and be safe
Great post. I identify as slave and also experienced struggle with believing if this is really true because I’m anything but perfect.
Very well written, and a good read. Thank you
I really appreciated the clarification.
Excellently written, thank you!
Excellent clarification. So may miss the definitions and focus points.
There is beauty in imperfection and brutal honesty. Thank you for posting this…
Enjoyed the read. Thank you for posting. x
A worth while read for new members to the community. Even those who have been actively involved for sometime should give it a glance over.
Thank you for the enlightened read. Well worth even for refreshing or just solidifying your views.
I like the military analogy. It makes so much sense.